Sometimes at work if I sit and think of the sadness inside
of the patients’ hearts sitting all around me, I could cry. If I could see into the depths of their
souls, there is hurt deeper than I have ever felt.
We have a man on the ward with one of the largest facial tumours I have
ever seen and I have been on the ship for almost two and a half years now. Part of the tumour has grown from his maxilla
facial bone out of his face, so that one of his eyes is deep inside his
face. The tumour spills out of his
mouth, stretching his lips so far apart that he hasn’t been able to close his
mouth for some time. The tumour has been
growing now for 5 years and for the last 2 years he has only been able to take
liquids as food, because he cannot chew.
His whole mouth is filled with tumour.
Yesterday he came to the ship for a biopsy. We need to know what sort of tumour is
growing before we can think about removing it.
I spoke to our amazing maxillofacial surgeon, who said he was very
hopeful that it was benign. He also said
that he viewed the patient’s CT scan and the tumour goes far back in his head
to the base of the brain. Although this
surgeon has performed many huge surgeries removing massive tumours, he needs
another well qualified surgeon to help.
There is a head and neck surgeon arriving in about 5 weeks. Now we wait for the biopsy results, praying
it is a benign tumour and that we can keep this man alive until he can return
for surgery.
The caregiver in the bed next to this man’s, asked for a
curtain to be put around his bed, as his face scared her. And my heart hurts for the feelings in both
these people’s lives. Yes, the tumour is
scary to see, but there is a man inside of the face. He has lived with this tumour for years
now. He has lived with people only seeing
the outside and not his personality or soul.
People that walk past and stare, or just completely ignore, like he
doesn’t exist. But he does exist!
What does this man feel? My heart aches to think of how he feels, how
deep the pain in his heart is for the words or looks that he has endured over
the last years. And now my heart’s cry
and prayer is for this tumour to be operable, for him to be strong enough to
endure these next weeks and for him to know the love that we have from God, who
can and will heal his heart’s pain and suffering.
My heart tugs at his story! I will be praying with you.
ReplyDeleteI'm praying/ rooting for this guy and those of you that are reading out to him too...(came to your blog via another mercy ship nurse/ Michelle)
ReplyDeleteThank you Deb for sharing so beautifully.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing, Deb, I'll be praying as I look for an update on him!
ReplyDeleteSo sad. We so often treat those who are different from us as though they are worth less than us. Hope there's a great outcome for his story.
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